Sometimes I just don't get people

Try to do something nice....

Published on May 2, 2006 By momijiki In Blogging

I swear, try to do something nice...

I am going to a wedding in Canada this summer. I want my husband to go as well but I KNOW that he has work and that he is leary about asking for time off. But when I went to buy my ticket today, I enquired about how much his ticket would be. We are not going at the same time.

When I found out that there were 10 seats left of the plane around the time he can go and make it to the wedding, I booked a ticket for him to save him a seat and give him the chance to think about it. This is an international flight, so one just can't hop in the car and drive there. There is no cancellation fee for a few days.

I couldn't call him because guess who didn't pay the phone bill? If you guessed my husband then you hit it on the head.

So is he grateful for hearing that I got him a ticket with no strings attached that he can change or cancel? NOOOOOOOOOOoooooooooooooo.....

Instead he freaks out about the money (ticket is 500 less than he thought). He freaks out about why I didn't call him. (Well, bozo, the answer is obvious... you didn't pay our phone bills and you said you wanted to be in charge of the bills and the money so when our phones get disconnected.................). Then he freaks about he can't get time off and he doesn't want to be under any pressure to go.

Does one get the idea that he doesn't want to go to the wedding and is putting it off until it is too late?

Imagine string of invective profanity directed at husband here.

We have some issues. This only exacerbates them.

Did I mention that that ticket can be cancelled at no charge for a week?

Ooooooooooo...... still steamin' angry.

I'm trying to calm down so I don't go pick a fight.

Comments

foreverserenity

on May 02, 2006

Having been where you are with mine, I totally understand. There, there. Sometimes you wanna knock some sense into their heads just to make them see reason.

Moderateman

on May 02, 2006

sometimes you don't get people? Ha I almost never get people.

Sally jacobs

on May 02, 2006

Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but to me there seems to be other issues that are really bothering you, and this little problem at the moment is just highlighting them.

Sounds like he is also looking for an easy out on this trip. Just ask him straight if that's the case. I hope you feel better soon x

momijiki

on May 02, 2006

Sometimes you wanna knock some sense into their heads just to make them see reason.

lol you have no idea.... but I'm really against that kind of stuff. so I took it out on a piece of paper (which in a way is not good either)

sometimes you don't get people? Ha I almost never get people.

I hear ya.

Sometimes I feel like I'm ascribing feelings and motivations to people's actions. Kind of like anthropomorphizing an animal. I realize that sounds really conceited, but I don't mean it to suggest other people are animals. It's just that I have about as much insight into the guy sitting next to me on the train as I do watching a dog play in the park. Looks like he's having fun, ergo....? What do all those signals really mean? blah......... body language is communication............ I'm analyzing too much and not getting anywhere.

there seems to be other issues that are really bothering you

no. you're not reading that wrong. It's kind of eerie you said that because I actually typed "there are other issues" but then deleted it because I'm not going to go there on my blog.

looking for an easy out on this trip. Just ask him straight if that's the case.

after calming down (and I did go and pick a fight.... his jacket was smokey and hanging by my head :roll eyes: (at myself) we had some discussion. He said he is worried about the sales target and that he is trying to get time off but wasn't talking to me about it because of not bringing work home. I told him that sometimes work comes home if it affects plans we are trying to make and that is the kind of stuff he should mention not withhold.

I hope you feel better soon

Thanks. Actually, I feel better now. I finished making my math test and the key so it should be smooth sailing at work tomorrow.

stutefish

on May 02, 2006

I'm just like your husband. I consider myself very fortunate to have a wife like you.

Dr Guy

on May 02, 2006

Guess there are a lot of us Stute.

momijiki

on May 03, 2006

I consider myself very fortunate to have a wife like you.

I'm glad for your wife that you feel that way! It's a really wonderful sentiment (not that she'd like me but that you feel fortunate to be with her). And just to continue on the communication thing, I hope you tell her and not just assume she knows.

Guess there are a lot of us Stute.

All guy-like and not good with the talking? sigh.... aint that the truth!!!!!!!!!! lol

Actually, I find it really interesting about the way men communicate. I just don't enjoy it so much when I'm trying to plan a trip.

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