Although my husband does a lot to help me, there are some pretty primo instances where I get the message that I am unimportant. Particularly when it comes to immigration issues.
I'm not even going to start into the green card application process he delayed on. I can't really speak about it without becoming bitter.
But this month my spousal visa is up for renewal. For once in my life, I wanted to do all my application stuff with PLENTY of time. In the beginning of the month I went to get some of my documents started. Found out that I have to get documents from my husband first. These are documents he can only get when he shows up at city hall. I did all the research and fact gathering and found the phone numbers. Maybe there is an easier way, but we don't have the ex-pat package to take care of us so we are on our own.
I think I told him the wrong expirary date, but it is pretty much immaterial. I told him that if he could get every thing done the week of September 7 while I was away, that we would have plenty of time. He said, "Sure! No problem. I'll be able to get that done for you really easily."
I thought,, "Perfect! For once I'm not going to have to scramble!" Why did I think that?
I came back from my trip and he hadn't gotten any of the documents. The next week was super busy for him and he couldn't take time off work. Then after badgering him I finally get him to go and then he finds out that one of the documents has to come from Osaka. But now time is critical. He has to get things done by special delivery. (WHich is wierd because he told me one has to get all these documents in person so WHAT is he on about?????)
Turns out, one of my documents expires before the others and I thought they expired at the same time. My visa expired so now I have to hope that my document from Osaka comes by tomorrow so we can BOTH go to the immigration office. He can make the official apology.
As long as my renewal is a rubber stamp, no problem. THen I can go get a driver's license. Which expires Friday.
Basically, it only seems like he wants to help me when it is interesting to him or makes him look good in some way. I guess making sure that I can live in the same country as him is a pretty low priority.
?Right now I really want to give that boy a smack with a large-size tuna. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.